Why Nurturing Your Infant Matters For Eternity

Why Nurturing Your Infant Matters For Eternity

It might seem like what you're doing isn't THAT big of a deal. It might feel like ANYONE can change diapers or give bottles or rock a baby. And yes, to some extent, that's true. But you are doing so much more than JUST meeting physical needs.

When you choose to love an infant well: singing that quiet song, using that dorky voice, smiling in that silly way, reading that repetitive book, or feeding that messy snack - you are displaying God's love.

Seven Principles To Keep In Mind When You Don't Know How To Discipline

Seven Principles To Keep In Mind When You Don't Know How To Discipline

God has given each parent the task of loving their children by instructing, training and disciplining them - but all of us feel clueless about this task from time to time. Here are seven principles to keep in mind when you don't know how to handle a discipline issue:

1. Act. Learn. Adapt. Most of the time, you just need to try the things you already know and see how they work. If it's going terribly, learn from it and try something new. Your first parenting strategy isn't your last parenting strategy.

2. Ask Someone: Sit down with a godly and experienced mom and ask her for a "Training and "Correction 101."

3. Pray: When you don't know how to handle it practically, pray over your child, that God would calm their heart, give them a desire to submit to authority and give you wisdom in the situation.

4. Read scripture and do what it says: There are lots of arrows in the Bible to point us in parenting. Sometimes, we don't like those arrows because they require us to sacrifice what we want to do, and take hard work and planning. Sometimes, when we're not sure how to discipline our child it's not because we literally don't know what's right, it's because we don't want to obey scripture.

5. Pay attention to your husband's leading: Oftentimes, your husband will see things that you don't and can see things more objectively. As hard as it is, listen to him when it comes to behavior issues and consider adopting his approaches.

6. Remove distractions: Sometimes confusion about discipline stems from letting other priorities cloud our calling. We haven't been consistent, or we've been overcommitted, or just lazy. Here, it's not that you need better parenting strategies, but need to repent to God and your children - making discipline a priority again.

7. Remember the goal and keep going: Being a faithful and godly parent is something that reaps rewards. We aren't promised that our children will become Christians, but there is treasure stored up in heaven for parents who faithfully raise their children in the way of the Lord. It isn't a perfect input = output relationship, But the bible shows that good fruit can result from raising our children well.

* A version of this post first appeared on Emily Jensen Writes Blog January 2015 // For more on gospel-centered discipline, listen to Episode 57 | How Discipline Helps Us Communicate the Gospel.

Parent With Prayer

Parent With Prayer

I'd pretty much exhausted all of my usual strategies for discipline when I came to my husband and said, "I'm just out of ideas for how to handle this. What should I do?"

(I was listening intently for a magic bullet technique that I hadn't thought of yet. I REALLY wanted to hear a 1-2-3 solution to the complex heart attitudes of our pre-schooler.)

"Well, have you tried praying with him? Just stay calm, correct him, and ask God to help. Let him see that you are both dependent on the Lord for a heart change."

When Momma Loves the Bible, Her Children Notice

When Momma Loves the Bible, Her Children Notice

"Mom, are you doing bible study now? Can I come! I want to get my bible study out!"

Little pajama feet pitter-patter up the stairs into the kitchen to grab their nearly-dried out container full of markers and almost-full notebooks. They find their small bibles, and negotiate whose name is on the front, double-checking by investigating the types of stickers they find inside the cover ("Oh, Thomas the train - that's mine!!"). They spread their materials out beside me, climbing onto stools at the kitchen island. 

Theology is for Moms of Little Ones, Too

Theology is for Moms of Little Ones, Too

With four young children, a moment of quiet or predictable consistency is hard to come by. Even with my best efforts to be organized and intentional, it’s still difficult to stay engaged in regular bible study, to disciple women, to fellowship regularly with other believers, or to serve in ways that pull me out of my home. The desire is there, but so are the dirty diapers, the naptime routines, the laundry piles, and the mundane things that keep our family going.

All the distractions, setbacks, and challenges occasionally leave me wondering if theological growth just isn’t possible for a woman in the season of young children. I’ve wondered if I should just shrug at my inconsistent quiet times, and parched prayer life. I’ve contemplated sitting out of the women’s bible study or leaving our calendar free of hospitable meals because it’s just too hard.

So for every mom of little ones who is longing to see her relationship with God as bigger than the elusive “quiet time”, this list is for you.

Loud, Chaotic Quiet Times

Loud, Chaotic Quiet Times

When it comes to "quiet time" with God, I often want the ideal.

I want the whole house to be silent so I can have a long string of uninterrupted thoughts. I want my coffee fresh and hot. I want to sit in my favorite chair with a snuggly blanket. I want my journal with a special pen & a well-marked bible. I tend to think that if all these criteria are met, THEN I will have a full & fruitful relationship with God.

New Episodes of Risen Motherhood Return September 6

First of all, we want to say, "THANK YOU!"

We want to take a moment to thank all of you for your support over the past year and a half. We continue to be amazed by the ways God is using the podcast and the Risen Motherhood community. We frequently find ourselves talking about the unbelievable listeners we have, and all the support and encouragement you've show us. Truly, from the bottom of our hearts, thank you. To those of you who have been faithful listeners from the beginning, and those of you who have only just recently found us, we are so grateful to have found a space where so many mothers want to grow in intentional, gospel-centered motherhood.

You all have been so kind and gracious with us as we have grown in not only the technical aspects of running a podcast, but also in navigating and running such a fast-growing community, expanding the site to include RM|EQUIPPING (among many other things!). We know know we haven't done it perfectly, and we'll always be the first to admit that we have more to learn in our own motherhood, but we're grateful to have each of you locking arms with us to support us as we learn, change, and grow. 

Um...Did You Know We Are Both Having Babies This Summer?!

Throughout the past few shows, you've probably heard us talking about taking a brief "maternity leave" from the show, as we're both adding new babies to our families this summer! In case you missed it, Laura had her baby, Eden Lynn, three weeks early on June 8, and Emily is due with her little girl in early August. As we both adjust to our growing families, we'll be taking the months of July and August off from releasing new podcast episodes and will return with new shows on Wednesday, September 6, 2017. We're already planning with special interview guests and frequently-requested show topics!


But We're Not Totally Off The Grid...

We hope you'll stick with us over the next couple months as we'll still be active on social media ( Facebook || Instagram || Twitter ) and releasing new content on this blog, all to encourage you in gospel-centered motherhood. Plus, we have an archive of 70 episodes that you can listen to while we're on break. If you're looking for a specific topic, we encourage you to search our archive. 

In addition, we hope you'll use your summer to dig into some new books and resources. If you haven't checked them out yet, we've pulled together all our favorite resources for Biblical motherhood on the Resources page - you'll find our favorite books for spiritual growth, the best children's Bibles, our top picks for journals for quiet times and prayer, and even find tips on our favorite highlighters that don't bleed through thin Bible pages, or music for kids that won't hurt your ears.  Be sure to check out all our Recommended Resources here.

And of course, we always want to encourage you to prioritize spending time in God's word above anything else. Visit RM|EQUIPPING for all our resources for studying scripture, as well as to find our tutorial for understanding and growing in the Inductive Bible Study Method.   We hope this summer you'll be able to find time to soak in God's word and grow in your love and understanding of him - which will in turn grow you in your role as a mother. 

 

how you can support risen motherhood:

Many of you have been gracious enough to ask how you can support the ministry of Risen Motherhood - thank you! Here are a few simple ways that only take a few minutes of your time, but would have a big impact for this ministry. 

  • Share Risen Motherhood with your friends and/or on your social media platforms. We truly hope this podcast fosters conversations and deeper discussions between mothers to seek the gospel in their daily activities. Recommending Risen Motherhood to your mom-friends and online followers is one of the most meaningful endorsements we could receive, and we'd be honored if you shared and encouraged others to listen in.
  • Purchase a resource from our "Recommended Resources."  As we mentioned above, we've pulled together all our favorite resources for growing in gospel-centered motherhood. When you purchase a resource from our lists, we receive a small percentage of the purchase price, but it doesn't cost you anything. 100% of all profits will go directly back into the ministry of Risen Motherhood. 
  • Leave an iTunes review. While it may not seem like much, iTunes reviews are actually one of the best ways to spread the word about the show. The ratings and reviews you leave for us help iTunes to rank us higher in the search engine and encourage new listeners to try us out. If you're not sure where to begin with leaving a review, we've put together a tutorial for you right here. 
  • Follow us on social media: We use FacebookInstagram and Twitter to keep listeners updated on the latest episodes, as well as to share short posts and microblogs with Biblically-based encouragement on motherhood. In addition, you'll find all the latest news and updates about the show or new products for RM|EQUIPPING. (And for lots of behind-the-scenes content, be sure to find us on Instagram and watch our Stories!)

Thank you again for all you do to support us in this ministry. We can't wait to return on September 6, 2017!

Hey Moms, Look Up

Hey Moms, Look Up

I look down at my shoes, worn black Vans, and rub the dried formula off the toe. I hastily tuck my hair behind my ears and catch my baby girl smiling at me from the corner of my eye. I move to the stove to look down at the oatmeal I'm making for breakfast, stirring in raisins and obscene amounts of peanut butter to try to hold off the request for a snack for at least a couple hours.  

There's this thing I've noticed when you become a mom, it happens abruptly beginning with the first night of the first babe, yet I'd be willing to bet that most moms don't even notice it happening. It's subtle, a common thread among all of motherhood - but one that would rather not be noticed, not be plucked out and put on display.

The Inductive Bible Study Method Tutorial Is Live!

The Inductive Bible Study Method Tutorial Is Live!

We're so excited to announce that the full tutorial for how to study the Bible Inductively is live! While there are many wonderful resources out there to study the Bible, the Inductive method is one that requires at minimum, nothing but a Bible and a pen (and maybe some extra paper if it's not a journaling Bible), and is a skill that can be applied to any verse or passage of scripture, making it a great launching point for any Bible study you engage in. 

A Simple Message for All Moms This Mother's Day

A Simple Message for All Moms This Mother's Day

"What does the church need to give moms this Mother's Day?" <--- a question we received on Twitter that's worth considering ...

At first, my brain shuffled through the obvious things: the church needs to support moms, to thank them, to equip them for discipleship, and to provide outlets for fellowship and spiritual growth. These messages, at some level, always feel timely and helpful. But as I thought about it more, what moms really need to hear from their church this Mother's Day isn't a burdensome statement about the hugeness of their calling, a heartfelt "thanks" that can sometimes fall on deaf ears due to guilt, or a list of ways they can do even better in motherhood...

What moms really need, if we are to give them the strength to run the race set before them, is a reminder of who they are and what they have in Christ.

Pray Before You Speak: Tips for lovingly approaching your husband with your hurts

Pray Before You Speak: Tips for lovingly approaching your husband with your hurts

If you've been married for longer than your honeymoon, you know that a covenant marriage relationship includes conflict.  In some seasons it's more frequent than others, and the severity can range from vow-hindering sin to the slight offense of leaving a trash can un-emptied.  One great skill that happy and holy married couples possess is the ability to forgive, especially as they constructively approach difficult conversations.  Lovingly approaching sins and hurts in your marriage isn't the primary change agent for your spouse's heart, but it can pave the way for repentance, reconciliation, and restored marital health.

Encouragement for Mom When Dad Works Long Hours

Encouragement for Mom When Dad Works Long Hours

Ever since we've been married my husband has worked long hours. I don't know why I've ever expected it to change, but I suppose there has always been this hope in me that it would. To give perspective (and I suppose some credibility as to why I'm writing this post), my husband typically works 12 hour days, and though he is supposed to have every other Friday off, he works them about half the time and at times, he is unexpectedly called in on the weekends or in the middle of the night. He also goes through long seasons once or twice a year, working 12-15 hour days (or nights) for anywhere from 30-90 days straight (yes, even weekends), although this past year they introduced "Fatigue Days," where it became a requirement that they give the employees every 14th day off. (I'll be honest, I've always wondered how this could be legal.)

I know there are a lot of professions that require husbands to work long hours and I am not the only mother preparing and eating dinner with the kids by myself. But it can feel like a very lonely road sometimes and it can be tough to know how to talk about it or what to do, because for most of us, we know deep down, it's not going to change anytime soon, so what good does talking about it do?

That said, I'm not writing this to say that I have anything revelatory to add, nor do I always have a good perspective or follow the advice I'm about to share, but in seven years of being married to a man that works long hours and four of which I've been a mom to small children, I have come a long way in my attitude and learned a few tricks to ease the frustration. So to the mom who's husband works long hours, this is my letter to you.